Archive | August 2013

Transwoman Carded and Abused in Edinburgh Mall

ImageSpare a thought Loves for 18 year old River Song.

River is a pre-op transgender woman who is engaged to Jake Wood, also 18, himself a transgender man.  The two were enjoying a day out in central Edinburgh, Scotland, as many young couples do.  They went to the city’s St James Centre, just a stone’s throw from the world-famous Princes Street, and visited the food court.

River went to use the food court female public toilets, which she had used without any problems for two years previously.  She was then pulled aside by a security guard who stopped her from entering the toilets.

The security guard then asked River if she had undergone a sex change, to which she replied no.  He then asked “Why have you used the female bathrooms if you haven’t had a sex change?”  He then proceeded to ask her for ID.  River produced the only ID she had, which happened to be for her cisgender male identity.  The security guard glanced at it and stated “This is a male, you are a male and always will be a male.”

River, at this point in tears, then proceeded to return to her fiancé Jake, but was followed by the security guard, who continued to verbally abuse her, including saying “it’s got a penis”.

James Morton of Scottish Transgender Alliance told the Edinburgh Evening News that there is no legal requirement in UK law for a transgender woman to undergo any surgery in order to be legally recognised as female.  Moreover, he correctly stated that “Verbally abusing a trans women by calling her ‘it’ and demanding to know whether she has undergone genital surgery is unlawful harassment under the Equality Act 2010 and could even result in criminal charges against the security guard for threatening or abusive behaviour.”

And it thankfully appears this is  what is happening Loves.  Police Scotland have now launched a hate crime enquiry against the security guard.  This is one I shall be following dears and reporting the progress and outcome of.

A few thoughts however about the incident.

I know that River Song is a teen and was in what must have been for her a very threatening situation.  No doubt she saw the security guard as an authority figure.  However, this jumped-up little Hitler had no right to ask her if she had undergone a sex change, to which River’s response should have been ‘NONE of your fucking business’.  He further had no right to ask her for ID, and when he did her response should have been to tell him to go fuck himself.  The St James Centre may well be owned by a private company and anyone who enters may be on that company’s property, but their security guards are not a private police force, nor do they have any powers in any way similar to the police.  This power-crazed little squit completely overstepped his authority by asking River if she was post-op and asking for ID – and that is before he launched into a tirade of abuse.

Anyone who doubts that consider this; those of you who are, like River, 18 or over, if a security guard asked you if you had a sex change and for ID, would you tell him and supply it?  Or would you, like me, be far more likely to put him in his place and possibly ask for the name of his superior?

And if anyone from the firm who supply security for the St James Shopping Centre is reading this, is that the level of professionalism which you look for in your employees?  Power-crazed, transphobic bullies who are allowed to voice their own ignorant prejudices?  Bigots who will not even recognise transgender people as human beings but refer to them as “it”?  And are you not supposed to make your employees aware of equality law in Scotland?  I work in customer services and I can only say that by employing such an odious person, your commitment to the  same is not only poor, it is absolute zero.

The St James Centre is a squalid shopping centre in any case.  In the frenzy to modernise things in the 1960s-70s, the very beautiful Georgian St James Square was demolished to make way for a concrete eyesore which is hated by just about everyone in Edinburgh and the whole of Scotland.  The owners of the St James Centre can attempt to deny that if they want, but they cannot deny that is the public feeling or the fact that numerous plans have been put forward to demolish it ever since it opened.

As to their food court, River and Jake, what were you thinking dears?  I wouldn’t feed what passes for food in there to my worst enemy – unless he were a bigoted, abusive, fascistic security guard who no doubt gets a hard-on every time he dons his uniform.  Please Lovies, there are much nicer places, with much better food, just down the road from the St James.  Go there in future.  Let the Vittoria restaurant’s gain be the fast food chains and the St James management’s loss.

And don’t worry about me visiting your loos St James management.  I wouldn’t be seen dead anywhere in your tacky building.

To River and Jake, the thought of two young transgender people in love makes me all warm and fuzzy inside (yes, I’m soppy, get over it).  If you are reading this, best wishes for your forthcoming wedding and your future life together.


Xandra xxx

Christian Domestic Discipline for those who like their pantaloons crotchless

ImageI just know Lovies, you are going to think this a joke at first, as I did too.  But I have been directed to a website by a Christian wife who talks about having a good spanking from her husband to keep her in her place, and to spice up their sex lives.

Now, far be it from me to ever cast aspersions upon the sex life of another.  And I have nothing wrong with anyone playing sub to a dominant partner, nor with a good spanking as bit of play as a sexual activity.  This woman, however, is something else.  Not only does she want to live her life like that, she suggests that EVERY Christian wife should behave in the same way.

Leah, to name the woman in question, states “Christian Domestic Discipline is not BDSM. It is not a game”  Rather she states “A Christian Domestic Discipline marriage is set up according to the guidelines set forth in the Holy Bible, meaning the husband has authority over his wife within the bounds of God’s Word and enforces that authority, if need be, through discipline including but not limited to spanking.”  Leah then, through several pages, goes off on a diatribe of what constitutes a good Christian wife (in her estimation obviously) and how every Christian woman (also in her estimation) should follow her example, whilst throwing in not a little bigotry to boot.

Parts of it are laughable but many parts of it are frankly odious, and so puritanical that even a Stepford Wife would laugh at them.

Of course, the entire premise of Leah’s argument is based upon the Fall of Man in the Book of Genesis, and the fact that it was Eve who was first tempted by the serpent, for which God punished her; Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.”  (Genesis 3:16, KJV).  One will notice however that there is no mention here of a husband’s ‘right’ to beat his wife, as there is never any such stipulation anywhere in the Bible.

Leah tries to argue this is shown in Ephesians 5:22-24.  Yet in fact, those verses neither give a husband the right to lay hands upon his wife.  It merely states Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the LordFor the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.  Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.”  In the same article it is argued “although American divorce rates have historically been higher than those in Europe, perhaps owing to the type of woman likely to emigrate from Europe to America – is it coincidental that divorce rates spiralled as spanking declined. Well, possibly dear, but I’m not sure if you are making a statement or asking a question, due to the absence of a questionmark.  One immediately sees however the bigotry raising it’s head in the words the type of woman. Brazen hussies that they are.  But then, it could be more likely that divorce rates spiralled as more and more women realised they do not have to stay in abusive marriages.

In the article “It Ain’t in the Bible”, Leah attempts to twist various Bible verses to justify spanking a wife.  This she does while at the same time stating “Thus, while the Bible may not specifically command it, comes very close to saying that a woman who is wrecking her house by whatever mean deserves to be punished until she is bruised.”

Yes, you did read that right “punished until she is bruised”.  Leah claims this is justified by quoting (and misinterpreting) Proverbs 20:30; The blueness of a wound cleanseth away evil: so do stripes the inward parts of the belly.” We can only assume from this that Leah would even consider a husband striking his wife across her stomach to be justified.  One can only wonder if that includes when she is pregnant?

Probably the most disturbing part of this section is where Leah perversely twists the story of Jesus and the adulterous woman; “Parenthetically, it might be worth noting that the biblical punishment for adultery was death (Leviticus 20:10). Since an adulterous woman getting beat with a stick until she thought she would die might be considered preferable to being hit with stones until she died (John 8:3) since the former is less harmful remedy.”  This of course is the famous incident where Jesus is said to have rebuked a baying mob; So when they continued asking him, he lifted up himself, and said unto them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.” (John 8:7, KJV).  You will notice that Leah, rather conveniently, does not mention that part.

I had to laugh at the section on CDD Husbands, which is self contradictory.  At one point Leah tells men “Encourage her to do things that are good for her… like get plenty of rest, good nutrition (but you should NEVER tell her she is fat or point out any other flaw), study for a test, etc.” then follows that up with the statement, “Don’t be afraid to give your opinion when she asks.”  Now, both as Xandra and my alter ego – “him” – knows all too well that when a woman sometimes asks a question, that is often a test.  If a woman asks the question “Does this dress make my bum look big?” most men are already well aware that is a signal to pay her a compliment.  It is an extremely unwise man who will truthfully offer his opinion by saying “No dear, that dress doesn’t make your bum look too big at all.  It’s too many cream cakes and not enough exercise doing that.” Leah can say what she wants but there are honestly times when a man gives his honest opinion he is just ASKING for trouble.  Ain’t that right girls?

Leah adds in the same section “Above all, never, never, never behave as if you cannot live without her, which will only cause her to lose respect for you.”  No Leah dear, that is your viewpoint and experience.  Every woman is different.  I daily tell my S I love her and make it clear that I could not live without her, as I am aware she could not live without me.  That does not kill respect.  If anything, it deepens it.

In “The Appearance of a Lady” Leah talks of how a woman should dress, depressingly stating the expected Deuteronomy 22:5; The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman’s garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the Lord thy God.” 

Leah states “The Lord feels so strongly about this, in fact, that He refers to a woman wearing a man’s clothing an “abomination” – something that is loathed by God. If our outer appearance was of no consequence to God, why would He use such strong language in the preceding scripture?” but then goes on to say, “I do not believe it is wrong for a woman to wear a pair of pants fashioned for a woman, but to be truly feminine… to look the part of a lady… it is infinitely preferrable to wear a dress.”  This is called having your cake and eating it, and there is word for this Leah dear, it is called hypocrisy.

Leah bases her argument upon this statement, “Since during those times men and women both wore something akin to robes, I believe this verse is highly dependent on the culture of the day. Our culture today accepts pants on both men and women, and pants are made for both men and women. Therefore it stands to reason that a woman wearing women’s pants is dressed as a woman, not a man.”

This argument fails on two levels.  Firstly, Leah is obviously thinking only of Biblical Judea where both men and women wore robes.  However, silken “harem trousers” for women are so ancient that their origin cannot be dated.  Plus at the same time both sexes in Judea were wearing robes, women (and men) in ancient Greece were wearing trousers for horse riding.  Secondly, there must have been a time when it became acceptable for women to wear trousers, which whether Leah likes it or not, were considered to be purely male apparel, thereby breaking the ordnance in Deuteronomy 22:5.

Probably the greatest facepalm moment in this section has to be when Leah makes the moronic bimbo statement, “However, the item of clothing that truly separates a man from a woman in today’s culture is the female dress or skirt. When one draws a stick person, he puts pants on him to make him seem male and a skirt on her to make her seem female.  Hence we know which door to enter for the ladies’ restroom.”

It is also interesting to note that in that same section Leah quotes 1 Timothy 2:9; “In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array;” then goes on to say in “Cultivating Femininity,”; “So go ahead and celebrate your girlhood! Put on a pair of pretty dangling earrings, buy that dainty peasant blouse, paint your toenails a delicate shell pink.” Hypocrisy again.

And of course it is important for young people to remain chaste and virgins under they marry.  In “Purity Counts” Leah states “Purity does still matter, not only to you and God, but to guys as well.”  She then goes on to tell a tale about some of her sons friends apparently looking up to her daughter because she is pure and chaste (anyone else smelling the bullshit here?) and states,  “My younger son’s friends pride themselves on being a unique bunch of guys.  Among them you can find long hair, short hair, lip rings, earrings, tie-died hippie types, vegetarian types, musicians, jocks, even a couple of Christians, but the one thing they all have in common (and I have asked all of them) is that they eventually want to marry a woman like my daughter… someone who is virginal, someone who knows how to cook, care for kids, and keep a home. They might play around with other types of woman, but when it comes to settling down, purity counts!”

Now, personally, I think that celibacy is it’s own punishment, however if that’s anyone else’s bag, that is fine by me.  However, when any Christian starts talking about the Bible and virginity, they would do well to remember that pertains to men as well as to women.  For Leah therefore to apparently have no problem with her son’s friends (and supposedly her son) messing around with loose women, then look down her nose at “other types of women” is again absolutely hypocrisy.

“Making the Switch” is more of the same about wearing dresses, about how Leah prefers to wear dresses because they make her feel feminine, and about how they are cooler in summer.  Good for her.  I couldn’t agree more.  There was part of the same article made me sit up and take notice however;

“At first I wore Capri leggings underneath my skirts, but I quickly learned those made me feel as masculine as they looked. So I went to tights. Ugh. I LOATHE tights and pantyhose. So I thought about what women in history have done and decided to make myself some feminine undergarments to wear underneath my skirts. I remember pulling up my skirt and showing my friends. It’s so hard to keep those frilly pantaloons a secret.

THEN my husband threw a wrench in my spokes when he asked me to stop wearing underwear under my skirts. This was NOT an order, so don’t go getting all upset with him. This was him half-jokingly telling me he’d really love it if I were perpetually “available” to him, and since he is such a wonderful husband, I wanted to submit to that request. 

So now on cold days I wear crotch-less pantaloons with knee-high socks or hose. They are made from soft cotton muslin. They usually have a ruffle or lace at the edge. They are comfortable and definitely make me feel feminine, and I am still “available” for my husband. Problem solved.”

Curiosity, as we all know dears, killed the cat.  So it was thus intrigued I did a Google Images search for crotchless pantaloons.  Ye Gods and little children!  That has to be the most horrific, unsexiest garment I have EVER encountered in my life.  Underwear like that needs to be buried in an ancient oak grove during an arcane nude ceremony at midnight on the night of a full moon.  Were he not such a sexist jerk, I may almost have felt sorry for Leah’s husband.

The section on Feminism under CDD Wives has to be the saddest part of the entire site, where Leah continually berates and misrepresents feminists.  In “Can a bad tree bring forth good fruit?” she states “The feminist movement officially began with only a handful of discontented women who decided to launch a rebellion against their government, their husbands, and society.”  Not a word about the suffragette struggle to get women the vote nor the continuing struggle for women to get equal pay, equal rights and a level playing field with men you will notice.

Worse than this, Leah goes on to demonise feminists as witches;

“Even though these women are hailed as heroines by our culture today, we as Christian women should form our own opinion of their rebellious actions, formed through scriptural knowledge. One such scripture to be aware of is found in 1 Samuel 15:23: For rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft, and stubbornness is as iniquity and idolatry…”

“Faces of Feminism” meanwhile completely misrepresents the feminist cause by throwing a load of radical “feminazi” man-hating quotes, which Leah purports to be the true face of mainstream feminism.

In “Why my Daughter is not a Girl Scout” Leah takes a swipe at Girl Scouts of America, with all the usual slurs against lesbians and pointing out that as a member, her daughter may have been taken along to field trips organised by Planned Parenthood.

Planned Parenthood is an American organisation which among other things offers help and advice on family planning, women’s health and even carries out mammograms to detect breast cancer.  They can arrange for terminations, but this is only ever as a last resort and PP will always make any women aware of alternatives beforehand.  If you listen to the US religious right however, they would have you believe that PP is purely an abortion clinic who advocate it as a means of birth control. This is a complete untruth and one which Leah has bought all too readily into; “Girl Scouts of America was involved, perhaps even heavily involved, with Planned Parenthood. As a mother who’d helped her daughter sell Girl Scout cookies for several years, I was crushed. Had my efforts been going toward killing babies?”  Leah goes on to say, “Surprisingly, as soon as my daughter heard of the connection between Girl Scouts and abortion, she no longer wanted to be a Girl Scout anyway.”  No Leah dear, not surprising at all, as you are obviously brainwashing your daughter with the same lying bullshit you buy into.  Well done.  By spoon feeding her lies you may well have condemned her to death by breast cancer.

Of course, Leah has other problems with Girl Scouts of America, including “The Girl Scouts had systematically removed lessons on homemaking from their manuals while adding lessons on famous feminist “heroes” and encouraging field trips to Planned Parenthood.” Because Heaven forbid any daughter of hers should ever grow to become another Florence Nightingale, Marie Curie, Ilse Meitner (discoverer of nuclear fission) or Valentina Tereshkova (first woman in space), right?  No, no.  That’s way too scary for a woman.  Better still to remain in the home, barefoot and pregnant, ready for a spanking and for her husband to take his “conjugal rights” through her crotchless pantaloons.

And of course, there are continual sideswipes throughout at lesbians.  In fact, the Girl Scouts article ends, “Would you be a member of the KKK knowing what they stood for even if you didn’t participate in their nasty deeds? Would you belong to the Society for Cutting Up Men (SCUM), even though you didn’t really cut up anybody? Of course not. You would not want to be identified as a member of such an organization. Then why would you want your daughter to be identified as a member of an organization that promotes abortion, feminism and lesbianism?”

All in all Leah can say what she wants but the bottom (no pun intended) line of this entire site is it is a charter for battered wives to remain battered wives.  I began by feeling sorry for Leah because I thought she had some modicum of intelligence.  Yet the more and more of her site I read, the more and more I am becoming convinced she is just yet one more ignorant religious bigot parroting others and attempting to convince other women that her way of life is how every woman should behave.

At the beginning of the site Leah states “Christian Domestic Discipline is not domestic violence. Neither is it abuse. It is an arrangement between two adults who share the belief that the husband is the head of the household and with that position comes the right to enforce his authority.”

She is right in one thing; it most certainly is not BDSM.  It is violence and it is abuse.  No matter what Leah may claim, no matter how she tries to twist scripture, there is absolutely nothing in the Bible to justify a man hitting his wife.  In the UK there used to be the rule that a man could beat his wife with a rod no thicker than his thumb; this is where the term Rule of Thumb comes from.  Similarly it is only as recently as 1976 when a test case proved that it was possible for a husband to rape his wife; before then he was considered to be taking what were his “conjugal rights”.  These things were allowed because women were not even looked upon as people but rather as property, firstly of their fathers, then later of their husbands.  We look upon all the above today as remnants of a barbaric past.  Leah Kelley and people like her, with their indoctrinated beliefs in CDD which turn them into willing victims of domestic violence, would seek to undo all the legislation which has brought the rights of women forward and quite rightfully protects women from male violence.

And should anyone doubt that, then consider that Leah advises that partners in a CDD marriage sign a consent agreement first, should there be legal problems later.  She does not stipulate what these problems may be, but that she has such an agreement is enough to tell me there is no trust in her relationship with her husband.  And where there is no trust, there cannot possibly be any love.

One can only imagine what Leah would make of us in the CD / Trans community.  She would probably have a coronary.  That being said, I’d like to hear some feedback from some of my sisters on this article, particularly those of you identify as Christian.  Yes Clare Flourish dear, I’m looking in YOUR direction.


Xandra xxxx

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